I would guess you have a natural musical talent, being so creative and all :).Thanks for reminding me of this. No matter how many times people say it, I still need to hear that I shouldn't compare myself to others. And that I should just work at my own pace and just compete against myself.Congrats on the piano!
You're right: This isn't Queen of the Mountain---there's enough room for everyone.Thanks for the reminder. I needed one!
What a great post. Well said.
Too fun. Great post. I love it! :)
I most certainly do this as a wirter/singer/housekeeper/cook/woman. I always have. And it has been crippling at times. It took having three kids to teach me that time is a great equalizer. My five year old may not be reading chapter books to herself like some of my neices have at that age, but she will. Eventually. And when she does, chances are, that brilliant kid who seems so far ahead right now will be on the same level as my kid. As for myself, I may not have an agent or a book deal or even the ability to get through a good solid edit on a novel, but I will. And when I do, my book will be just as amazing in it's own way as so many other books out there.Let me guess something- your friend never made it to Carnegie Hall. She probably got married, had a family, works full time and for the most part only plays on Sundays in church (which is actually okay). If Enya inspires you to learn a new skill, you will be a fantastic piano player yet. For the record, I always loved your Book of Days and was secertly jealous that I couldn't play it, too.
Keri - Competing against ourselves, yes! I maintain that those are the happiest people around. :) And no real musical talent here, just a burning desire to play some pretty tunes!Sarah - But...what if we built a castle big enough for all of us? We'll call it...the internet. Brilliant! We're rich!Jo - Thank you so much for reading!
Oh Robin. Why are you so far away that I can't hug you? You are amazing in so so so many different ways, now and on. Thanks for the comment. And honestly, want to know a big reason for relearning to piano now? So I can play the hymns in church so we don't have to rely on CDs (we are a very small branch!) Fingers crossed (but not so crossed I can't play.)We'll all get there, for sure. :D
And Carrie! Thank you so so much for stopping by! (man, I'm spamming my own post here. :D)
Piano! That's awesome! Merry Christmas! Wait. IT'S NOT EVEN CHRISTMAS YET! .... They don't have Christmas early in Japan, do they? Kind of like how they have every day early?Still, though, I hope you have tons and tons of crazymaking fun with it!(And for the record, I got a piano a couple of years ago. I can proudly say I can play A Poor Wayfaring Man of Grief. Without even looking! Of course, it's only with one hand. Teaching yourself can do great things for you. (Like leaving one hand free for the finger crossing.))
I tried to play the song you wrote here. It's...interesting.I quit piano because I heard a friend three years older than me just plunk out something beautiful that he made up on the spot. My piano teacher said what he did was easy, just basic improvisation, but I didn't believe her and lost interest.Of course, now when I sit down at the piano, I'm doing exactly that.
Peggy - Yes! Japan is amazing and all holidays come early! YOU SHOULD VISIT! Actually, Preston just said it would be way to hard to hide a piano for 3 weeks, what with the way I snoop. And I just bet you rock that Poor Wayfaring Man. :DAdam - Yay! You tried it! Well, it's actually 4 songs. First line is "Rebel Yell" by Billy Idol; second is "Killing Me Softly" by the Fugees; third is Billy Joel's "For the Longest Time" (I got tired on the fourth) and the fifth is Handel's Hallelujah Chorus...or at least piano approximation thereof.I remember being completely discouraged watching another one of my friends do the same exact thing. Man, we learn to compare when we're young and then it just never goes away. At least not easily. :)
I suppose your point is something like, "Be happy with what you can achieve," and/or "Don't judge people by what they can do but how hard it was for them to do it." I suppose these are both good messages. The problem is, they focus on people, not on products. When I buy a book, or a CD, I don't care much how the writer/performer struggled. I only really care about if it's good and if I like it. Agents and publishers need to be in tune with that attitude because they want to sell products, not personal triumphs. I write music myself and I'm pretty bad at it. No-one likes what I do except me (and even I can see it's not great). And, while I'm proud of what I can do - especially given my lack of native talent - I'm not surprised I can't sell it. (Yes, I've tried, just on the off-chance.) The thing is, comparing yourself to others, and comparing others to others, is invidious, as you say, but if you are looking for an audience for your *product*, you need to understand the market and where and whether you fit in it.
My crit partners and I were just talking about this yesterday. About how awful making comparisons is, but how we can't seem to stop doing it. We're gonna try though, because we don't want to be anybody else. We want to write our books, tell our stories, have our careers. Sometimes we're just impatient. :P
Great lesson! And I love that you wrote 4 different songs on here... you rock! :) Glad I read the comments!
That is so wonderful! Enjoy the learning process!
Graywave - Thanks for the insight! I guess all I had in mind with this drawg was the immediate effect that comparison can have on me, personally. I didn't even consider the bigger things here, like marketing! Thanks for stopping by!Kristan - Yes, telling OUR stories and no one else's...I love that. Good luck on not comparing, too. I'll be over here busily trying to do the same!Jolee - I don't know how well I transcribed them, but at least the last one looks pretty! Thanks so much!Nisa - Thank you! And thanks for reading!
Remember....you're not running races with anyone...except yourself! Remember the lesson on the PB's (personal best)?
This is about the time of year when I sit down and dust off my beautiful piano and play it. I LOVE playing Christmas music on my own piano. I really need to play it more often otherwise, but I'm okay with playing it at least once a year. I have a lot of other things I need to dump my energy into :)As for comparisons, well-- it's impossible not to. We all do it. BUT I think it's only a problem if you let it affect how you do your own thing. Don't get bogged down in someone else's work. Focus on your own.And I mean that, because I want to read it, dangit!
So true. Thanks for the encouragement!
Mom - wait...you weren't talking about PB as peanut butter? This whole time I've been beating up sandwiches. :)L.T. - I didn't know you played piano! That's awesome. You are so incredibly multi-talented...but I understand about pouring your energies into only a few things at a time. :) And it's coming, I swear!CM - Thank you so much for stopping by!
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